Issues in Adoption

Thai Adoption Adjustments

Post Adoption Problems

Australians adopting in Thailand

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Adoption Case 2:

When we adopted our adopted daughter’s biological mother was still alive but she had been in and out of prison her entire life. Her father was unknown and when she turned 10 they terminated her biological mother’s parental rights. We asked around as we discovered that our daughter has a younger half-sister  who now also lives in the US and who is HIV positive. She was adopted by a different American family. It is up to you when adopting a child with special needs.

We also adopted two Chinese children a few years back and they arrived as toddlers and they have no memories of life in China. This is the difference between adopting a small child and an older one. The older children still have their traumatic experiences to deal with whereas the toddlers don’t. These are things you have to consider when adopting.

You now also have to integrate the children into your family. With older children it is going to depend on their mental standing. With the trauma they have already experienced moving to another country with a different language and new family members is another trauma in itself. This is why there are training courses setup by many agencies as you need to learn how to make their move less traumatic and how to emotionally bond with them. Yes at first you might think these training courses are stupid, but they are not. They are actual rather helpful as integrating a child into a new environment especially an older child is a rather massive undertaking.

Adoption Suggestions

That is why I suggest that you examine why you are considering adoption and think about the effects it may have on the other family members (including grandparents). The real risks involve developing a relationship between you and your child, not problems from the outside. Once you are comfortable with the great unknowns. It will become easier to find a program that will find the right child for you. These are all part of the post adoption problems you might experience.

Adoption is more than a legal process. You have to consider many issues as has been highlighted above. You have to consider the implications of adopting an older child or a younger toddler. Also you also have to look at other issues such as the costs involved and also the delay in the process. Are you willing to wait 2-3 years for an adoption to complete?

Once you have decided on this path it is a long and difficult path. Consider all your options before you pick up a telephone and speak to an attorney. This about the adoption process and start it. See also the adoption process as well as adoption documents needed when adopting from Thailand.

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Adoption Statistics for Thailand

United States:

For the period between 1999 and 2015 the following statics are available:

Total Adoptions: 1,012 (496 boys / 516 girls)

Of these children 39 had been under the age of 12 months. The majority of adopted children in Thailand are between the ages of 1-2 years of age being a total of 519 children. There was also a total of 168 children between the ages of 3-4 years old. There was also 238 children between the ages of 5-12 years of age with only 47 children between the ages of 13-17 years of age. Most of the children in adoption in Thailand being more than 50% tends to be in the 1-2 years old age category.

Between the period of 1999 and 2015 there has been a total of 261,778 adoptions from abroad in the United States alone. 61% of these had been girls with 39% being boys and mostly under the age of 2 years of age. Interesting to note that inter-country adoptions had gone down over this period. In 1999 there was just over 15,000 inter country adoptions and hitting its peak in 2004 with just under 23,000 adoptions for that year. Since then it has declined to 5,600 inter country adoptions in 2015. See the adoption stats in Thailand for US States below.

The top adopting States tends to be

• California
• Texas
• New York
• Illinois
• Florida

These States tend to be in the top 5 states for adoptions from abroad. They have always remained in the top 7 for more than 10 years according to the statistics. Visa usage is also cover in the stats as has been listed below.

Visa Statistics for Thai Adoptions:

Most adoptions in Thailand have seen the children leave on IR-4 visas over the last 10 years as The Hague Adoption Convention entered into force with respect to the United States only in 2008. The IR-4 visa was used for 700 Thai children leaving for the United States. This with the IH-4 at 225 being the next most common visa type. 67 children left on an IR-3 and only 20 on an IH-3 visa. Most adoptions global on average tend to leave their home countries on an IR-3 visa. Which is for a non-Hague country. Since 2008 the most common visa (97%) the children leave on is an IH-4 US visa and some (3%) IH-3 US visas.

The adoption process can be difficult and complex. It is always best to speak to a lawyer or law firm in Thailand with experience in inter-country adoptions.

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Case 1 (American husband with Thai wife)

My Thai spouse and I already have two children. Both are boys and we want a girl. We are in our early 40’s and she does not want to have another pregnancy. Our last pregnancy we had to make use of fertility assistance and she did not like it. We have looked at adopting a Chinese baby however we had been told that there is a 5 year waiting period.

Since we already live in Thailand and my wife is Thai we hoped to adopt a Thai child. We had been told that the wait period is about 3 years. We hope that with one Thai parent being my wife the wait might be shorter than if it was a foreign couple. My wife visits a Thai orphanage on Buddhist holidays and at other times and I was wondering why the wait period was that long as there are lots of children at the orphanage.

The orphanage we visit told my wife that most of the children at the orphanage actually do have parents however with problems at home they end up in the orphanage. There is only a minority of orphans that considered finally abandoned, or have unknown or deceased parents.

My wife called DSDW in Thailand to ask about an adoption and the person said that there is a total of 19 forms which need to be completed where you also have to specify our preferences for age, gender, and special needs or not (more on this later), and that they would estimate it would take about 1 year to match us with a child. They asked about nationalities and she stated that she was Thai and that I was an American.

Reply:

My Thai wife and I applied at DSDW about 2 years ago. We had been told the waiting period would be about 12-18 months to meet a match. This however became quickly clear after our application was lodged in Thailand that this was not the case. Then our social worker has admitted that waiting times have been getting longer and longer for the past 3-4 years. As for one parent being Thai our DSDW social worker advised us when we applied that couples with 1 Thai spouse do not get special consideration – you go into the queue with everyone else.

Reply:

Generally speaking, the wait time is normally less for an older child. During our Thai adoption we decided that we didn’t want a small child and at our age to be dealing with diapers again, so we looked for an older child to adopt. You must also consider if you might adopt a child with a disability. BTW, an older child is considered special needs. This because of the emotional trauma involved with leaving her family and starting a new life.

As you can see above that one parent being a Thai does not put you in front of the line. This and that many of the children actually still have parents who are in the orphanage. Also, older children, because of all the trauma they have been through are viewed as special needs. Speak to a lawyer in Thailand if you have more questions.

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